Defined By The Decades

A viral trend has been going around lately where people share what they were like in the 90s, or what their town looked like in a certain decade, using old photos and memories. Watching those got me thinking about my own life and how clearly each decade has been divided into different chapters.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized this would make a good record for me, and maybe for my girls too. One day, when I’m much older, I’d love to be able to look back and remember the stages of my life. And for younger people, it’s also a reminder to ask questions while you still can. Ask your parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents where they lived, what jobs they had, what their life was really like. A lot of family history disappears if nobody asks.

I was born in 1962, so the 60s were mostly my early childhood. I was born at Fort Sam Houston in San Antonio while my dad was in the Air Force. We lived in Turkey for part of my toddler years, then eventually made our way back to Oklahoma. After my parents divorced in 1969, my mom moved us to Enid. My memories of the 60s are there, but that decade was mostly defined by simply being a kid.

The 70s were a whole different story. That was my decade. I grew up in Enid, went to Enid schools, and spent those years doing what kids used to do best—riding bikes, skateboarding, hanging out with friends, and living carefree. Those junior high years on West Broadway with our group of guys were some of the best times of my life. It was friendship, freedom, and fun, and that’s a big reason I still love talking about the 70s so much today.

The 80s were about college, growing up, and trying to find my footing. I went from Enid to Northern Oklahoma College in Tonkawa, then to Stillwater, and later to Central State in Edmond to study art and graphic design. The 80s were fun, but they were also about trying to figure life out—school, jobs, roommates, girlfriends, and just trying to survive on very little money. Looking back, there were a lot of good times mixed into the struggle.

The 90s were probably the hardest decade for me. That era was mostly defined by my first marriage, working at Evans Drug, building my graphic design skills, and starting to experiment with computers and side work. I bought houses, sold houses, drove Jeeps, even bought a red Corvette convertible at one point. But it was also a decade of stress, struggle, divorce, and trying to rebuild. By the end of the 90s, though, I had started building websites, learning the internet, and laying the foundation for what would eventually become my own business.

The 2000s were a much brighter chapter. That was the decade of marriage, daughters, working from home, and discovering how to make a living online. Denise and I were raising Piper and Chaney while I built Shaggy Duck Studio, worked on website and logo design, and eventually launched Enid Buzz in 2005. Those years were filled with family life, school drop-offs, dance lessons, vacations, and the blessing of being a work-from-home dad while the girls were little.

The 2010s were defined by change. I was still working for myself, but the girls were heavily involved in dance, life was busy, and then the Google Panda update hit and wiped out the business model I had relied on for years. Instead of going back to work for someone else, I made the decision to go all-in on Enid Buzz in 2013. That decade also included podcasting, offices downtown, a retail store experiment, lots of travel for dance competitions, and the beginning of my daily walks on the Enid trail—something that’s now been part of my life for over a decade.

The 2020s have been shaped by college years for the girls, road trips, football games, loss, and a lot of transition. COVID disrupted so much, including Piper’s graduation and both girls’ college experiences. We spent years driving back and forth to OU and Arkansas for games and performances. We also lost people we loved, including my mom and Jim Evans. But we moved back into this house, built this studio, and found our way into a new season of life.

When I look back, the 70s still win for me. They were the most carefree, the most magical, and the most fun. But every decade had its own identity. The 80s were about becoming an adult. The 90s were about struggle and survival. The 2000s were about family and building something of my own. The 2010s were about reinvention. And the 2020s have been about showing up for the people I love while continuing to build the life I want.

That’s really what this whole episode came down to for me: every decade leaves its mark. Some are fun, some are difficult, and some blur together until you stop and really think about them. But they all shape who you become.

So think about your own life. What decade defined you the most? Which one was your favorite, and why?

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